In recent years, a change has been occurring in Japanese romance and marriage. Many Japanese women are seeking older, mature men for the purpose of marriage or serious relationships. This phenomenon is also evident at Transpacific Marriage Agency (TMA), a matchmaking service for serious encounters between Japanese women and mostly Western men. Why do so many Japanese women seek partners who are usually older than themselves? Let's take a look at what makes older men attractive to Japanese women.
In Japanese culture, financial and emotional stability are essential to a long-term relationship. Older men are generally seen as financially and emotionally stable. They are seen as having "more life experience" and have gained the wisdom and experience that younger men are trying to gain.
This is especially important for women who want to have children. Being with a man who has a stable job, knows how to handle life's responsibilities, and has a solid foundation is perceived as very meaningful.
It is widely resonant that many of TMA's female members do not want "exciting" dates, but rather a quiet, respectful, long-term relationship, with a man who has overcome life's difficulties.
Contrary to the stoic image of the typical Japanese man, many women feel that men their age do not listen to them as much and do not express their feelings honestly. Older men, on the other hand, are more empathetic, patient and considerate emotionally. They are more likely to listen carefully, understand and resolve conflicts amicably.
Japanese women tend to perceive older Western men as kinder, more respectful and better conversationalists than younger men. This mature approach to relationships builds trust and emotional intimacy, which are crucial to a successful marriage.
In a small percentage of Western cultures, a large age gap can be socially stigmatized. However, in Japan, relationships between older men and younger women are common, and it is also common for men to guide, protect, and care for their brides.
This social norm allows Japanese women to freely seek older spouses of their own free will, and also has the effect of encouraging others to believe that such relationships are more stable and appropriate.
At TMA, you can meet partners with an age difference of 10 years or more. What matters is how tolerant and respectful you are to each other and share common goals.
Japan has made progress toward achieving gender equality. Many women expect their partners to be traditional males, who reflect the best aspects of Japanese culture: the primary provider, protector, and leader in the home. Older men excel in these roles, and many women are attracted to their confidence, decision-making skills, and ability to lead the household.
For Japanese women seeking international marriage, older men, especially Western men, are considered to have many qualities. They are providers and guides, listen to their partners' opinions, support their careers, and respect their individuality. This "fusion of old and new values" is wonderful for women with personal and cultural expectations.
Japanese women who register with TMA are not looking for a flirtation or a casual encounter. Older men who have had previous relationships or have certain ideals of their own are thinking deeply about marriage and want a more serious relationship.
These men are looking for a sincere and real relationship, not a love game or a fling. For Japanese women looking for a true partner, this way of thinking is quite novel.
It is not just age and maturity that attracts Japanese women. In Western culture, men are generally encouraged to express their feelings openly, help equally with household chores, and value emotional connection as much as physical attraction.
This cultural difference, combined with stability and maturity, makes older Western men highly desirable. Many Japanese women are looking for relationships that are emotional, understandable, and respectful.
At TMA, we have connected many couples from all over the world and from all countries. Our goal is simple: to connect Japanese women looking for love and marriage with Western men, primarily, who value serious, mature, and loving relationships.
If you are a mature gentleman who believes in lifelong love, intimacy, and shared dreams, you may be just what Japanese women are looking for. If you are a Japanese woman looking for a rich, intelligent, and loving relationship, TMA can help you find the love you deserve.
Transpacific Marriage Agency (TMA) offers streamlined services to help you find a loving partner who appreciates you for who you are.
We would be thrilled if your encounter with us leads to your ideal partner.